Divorce Question

eagleswings · Post by **eagleswings** » September 29th, 2004, 6:05 am

To anyone that can help me,

I am trying to enlist after getting a few things on the homefront squared away. The problem (maybe a good one) is that my wife and I are seperated now and may be getting a divorce. How does this affect the enlistment process? We have 1 baby girl as well. We agree on everything and pretty much have everything squared away with each other. I just want to make sure that I have everythign squared away with any legal stuff that may need to be done. I was going to sign all my papers before I left so that there is nothing left that needs to be done by me after I leave. Does anyone have any advice?

Thank you for your time.

Vee · Post by **Vee** » September 29th, 2004, 6:20 am

Shoot the hostage.

Steadfast · Post by **Steadfast** » September 29th, 2004, 7:15 am

Big Answer "use search button"

see: http://www.armyranger.com/bb/viewtopic. ... ight=quick

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eagleswings · Post by **eagleswings** » September 29th, 2004, 7:43 am

I apologize for the heading Ranger Steadfast. Heading fixed.

Post by **Ranger** » September 29th, 2004, 7:58 am

http://www.armyranger.com/bb/viewtopic.php?t=120

IntelToad · Post by **IntelToad** » October 3rd, 2004, 11:01 am

my wife and I are seperated now and may be getting a divorce

The operative term there is "may." Are you getting divorced or not ? If you are, you need to obtain a final decree from the court which will finalize the divorce and specify your support responsibilities. If you are not sure, or want to save your marriage, enlisting in the Army (and multiplying that trying to serve in The Regiment) is the worst possible choice you can make at this point. If you want to serve in The Regiment you will have enough on your plate beyond the stress of a divorce and having a young child in the middle.

Either way, I wish you luck. It's a terrible situation that many of us on this board know too well.

Bell · Post by **Bell** » October 3rd, 2004, 11:58 am

Do not take any baggage into the military and especially the Regiment. Leave the personal shit behind. You won't have time or opportunity to handle anything but your military duties.

Serious about this.

RLTW
Bell

BadMuther · Post by **BadMuther** » October 3rd, 2004, 4:43 pm

Kill her. JOKING!!!!!

Listen to Toad.

Shoot the hostage.

Post by **Disinfertention** » October 3rd, 2004, 5:26 pm

omg omg...wait...omg guys!!!

Are you, like, insinuating... or something... that he shoots his little girl!?

LIKE OMG! YOU RANGERS ARE SO CRUEL!

BadMuther · Post by **BadMuther** » October 3rd, 2004, 5:30 pm

Disinfertention wrote:omg omg...wait...omg guys!!!

Are you, like, insinuating... or something... that he shoots his little girl!?

LIKE OMG! YOU RANGERS ARE SO CRUEL!

Your woman get ahold of your account again bro?

eagleswings · Post by **eagleswings** » October 4th, 2004, 5:28 am

Well we just talked and yes we are getting a divorce. That is final. The only problem now that I see is that in NJ the wait is almost 9 months for a court date. I have talked to one lawyer and we can do all the papers ahead of time and provided there are no changes this will be no problem. Since we are actually on good terms with each other I think that will be the best way to go.

Rangers thanks for all the information and advice. If there is anymore I would appreciate it.

Kelly-Belly · Post by **Kelly-Belly** » October 4th, 2004, 2:03 pm

BadMuther wrote:
Disinfertention wrote:omg omg...wait...omg guys!!!

Are you, like, insinuating... or something... that he shoots his little girl!?

LIKE OMG! YOU RANGERS ARE SO CRUEL!
Your woman get ahold of your account again bro?

Ex-woman....lol.........

hit_it · Post by **hit_it** » October 6th, 2004, 2:04 am

you are still married. you can join like that. i don't advise since you got issues that WILL enhance your shitbag status later.

get your divorce. take care of your little girl. then come play with us.

eagleswings · Post by **eagleswings** » October 6th, 2004, 3:32 am

SFC Hit_IT right now the army is one of the few ways I can take care of my little girl since the civilian world is not cutting it. Since we have worked everything out already and are just in a dumb waiting period I think everything should be good. Like I said I may actually not be able to give my little girl what she needs if I wait too much longer.

Thank you for all the advice.

Dublo · Post by **Dublo** » October 6th, 2004, 4:43 am

Here's what I would do. Join the Army now, not telling them that you are having any problems with the old lady. Then, you will get extra pay for being married.

Get that money coming in for a month or two, then file for divorce after you have finished Basic, AIT, and have spent a month or two at your assigned duty station. That may give y'all some time to work shit out between the two of you, and you may just love each other again.

When you are already getting the married pay, which is a nice chunk of change.....then apply for the divorce. She doesn't ever have to live with you once you get into the Army, and you will still have all of that extra pay coming in.....and if the procedure takes 9 months, that will be enough time to save that extra money for a boat or something, or pay off some old bills.

I have a buddy that did just that, which led to a new Harley. Don't tell your wife about all of this extra money.....just let her know that by filing for divorce now......would keep you from getting in the Army....and out of her hair.

Tell her, that it will be just like y'all are separated for a little longer, and she can do whatever the fuck she wants to do. She will dig that. But, keep in mind that she will be going out and getting some dick, but who cares? Another positive to the whole thing that you can sell her with, is the fact that she will have health care for herself, and for the kid during the time that all of this is working out.

Your buddies won't think you are a shitbag, when you have an apartment off post, and all of those fuckers can hang out there.

Think about it, and try to sell her on it.