One thing that I'd suggest to help your husband is that if he mentions anything at all to you about his unit that you don't under any circumstances share anything you know about what he does in the unit, where the unit has gone, what his feelings are about his relationship about his peers or chain of command are. DO NOT share what he may discuss with you, with ANY other wives.
This will create definite problems if you are friends with a blabber mouth but don't know it yet.
Good point Spartan and I have an incident that crystalizes it very well. I was deploying with my Platoon to a training event in Germany. We were going to conduct our live fire certification. One of my Sergeants asked to stay back a couple of days so he could attend an important OBGYN appointment with his spouse. I figured what the heck he'll show up a few days late but it won't affect training.
Anyway since he and his wife had just arrived, I tasked my wife to assist them during this time period. My wife is a good trooper and followed orders accordingly. Anyway times goes by and I am wondering "where the hell is my SGT". I contacted rear detachment and spoke to him. He was having problems with the appointment, transportation and a litany of issues. I figured since we were deploying to war in short order he would need to have his family set before we left.
Turns out the SGT never showed up and when I got back my wife told me something. She said that while she was helping them out, my SGTs wife (former military) had told her "He and I kept moving the appointment so he didn't have to go to Germany". Somehow I reckon my SGTs wife had forgotten or was stupid enough to not know that her helper was also the wife of her Husbands Platoon Sergeant.
KAWOOOSH! ( sorry for borrowing that Ranger Luna)
I was asked to provide a SGT for Rear detachment during our deployment to Iraq, so I did the honorable thing. I left him here with his wife while me and the boys went to do our job!
He is probably the only soldier on the Army right now without a combat patch!